I lurk there in the
dining room and regard my siblings with the remove of a museum curator mulling
over a diorama of a threatened tribe of Amazonian Indians. I enjoy watching
them from here in the shadows, picture framed, as they are, by the pass-through
casing, a motley suburban tableau. I love these bewildering creatures – more
than I can possibly say – and this is why I hesitate. Their existence in this
familiar, and comforting, habitat appears ridiculously fragile and I fear my
arrival will only serve to stir up the pot, churning the harsh sediment of
grief back up to the surface.
So I study them
instead.
I have a keen eye, honed by many years of scrutinizing trivial
architectural details, so I’ve noticed certain things about them, things that they
probably don’t even know about themselves. I know that Mason, whenever he’s
bewildered, sticks both his hands deep into his front pants pockets as if
searching for the answer inside, squinting his eyes and jingling coins and
other pocket debris. I know that whenever Jules steps outside into the open
air, she always looks straight up into the sky for a few seconds, as if
anticipating the return of the Mother Ship. Bridge, who was struck by a car as
a teenager and has endured a lifetime of agonizing surgeries, never crosses a
street (or a driveway, for that matter) without checking three times in each
direction in rapid, alternating succession. And I know that Had, before he puts
his shoes on, reflexively taps them together and shakes them out up-side-down,
because when he was eight a bee wandered into his sneaker and stung him on the
sole of his foot. Such are my lifelong gleanings of the idiosyncratic nature of
my tribe. What good this monitoring does me in my own critical self-evaluation
I can’t say, for I believe I know much more about them than I do about myself.
I’m chock-full of trivial snap shots and arcane observations, but I fear I’m
bereft of any genuine insight. My camera only faces in one direction – outward.
Random Picture Alert: Terri, Jill, Patrick, Erin and Sam from our Going Away Party shortly before moving from Chicago to Oregon (Hi Jill -- great to hear from you!) |
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